So I got nervous and I didn’t make it to my cousin’s wake. I’ve always had issues showing up to things on my Dad’s side of the family. They make me feel very uncomfortable and unwelcome. Not to mention my cousin didn’t really know me that well in life. In fact, he mistook me for my sister on multiple occasions. My sister and I look nothing alike and live in different states. So I didn’t feel that bad about deciding not to go. I did feel bad telling my sister The Smoker’s car broke down. It’s true, it did. The engine seized. It just didn’t happen on the day of the wake.
I did make it to Thanksgiving at my Aunt’s house this year. I even went by myself. It was nice, quiet. The kids are all grown. Most of the family moved away. So it was just 9 of us. Then I came home and drank a bottle of Reisling and watched Judge Judy. I got just the right amount of drunk.
I’m still dreaming about those sweet potatoes though. Man, they were good!
The Smoker decided not to celebrate this year. His father died 2 years ago, the day after Thanksgiving. He’s been very depressed about it. It’s been a big part of our problems – his depression killed his ambition to do much of anything. He didn’t do that much to begin with. Like going from a 5 to 0.
Today is Black Friday. I’m gonna try and make some decisions about Christmas shopping, and whether or not I’m going to celebrate it. I identify more as Jewish these days. I have a little Jewish blood in me from my mother’s side. I enjoy celebrating my heritage. The Smoker enjoys taking part with me and it’s the only religion he’s ever really celebrated. I do miss celebrating Christmas though. We’ve been doing it that he and I do Hannukah and then we do Christmas with both of my families. Then with his mom. It’s a lot.
Fucking Christmas. Damned if I do, damned if I don’t.
I start my new jobby job on Monday. I’m mildly terrified of drug testing. Marijuana is legal in my state. But it just became legal, so I’m not sure how that works. If it affects anything. I should quit. But I also don’t want to quit, especially for a job that’s only a week long. So I guess we’re riding this poor decision train all the way out of the station. I already feel weird and guilty.